When Pamela Ter Gast and I made friends on Facebook four years ago. Little did I know such a strong friendship would develop. And just how much we have in common. Our friendship began with a shared interest of neuroendocrine tumours. Our chatting very soon veered to a personal level.lkkkkk Pam, Dutch born now living in USA with her beloved Boo, has two kids – like me. Only I have two lads, Pam has one of each; a girl and a boy. We hooked up with two other Dutch zebras: Beth and Didi. The four of us formed a close bond; sharing stories, we laughed and cried together. We call ourselves the musketeers. Of course we are alternative musketeers – Pam: Winnie The Pooh, Beth: Piglet, Didi: Eyore and little old me:Tigger.
Pam was a very gutsy lady who I admired greatly. You could always rely on Pammy to make you feel better. When times were tough for any of us we would take a virtual travel together. We posted our travels on social media and many people actually thought we were actually away to beautiful sandy beaches, climbing mountains, visiting castles and distant shores. Now that would have been a treat 😉.
This beautiful lady showered her kindness and picked me up on days I felt pdown. She always had an uncanny knack of knowing without asking……and offering that shoulder. Pam did not stop at friending me. She would drop messages to the men in my life. When my mum passed away she was fab and sent messages to the boys, when Tony had meningitis she sent him a few messages asking how he was. And on one ocassion when I hadn’t posted on Facebook for a few days she sent Steve a message saying she was worried she hadn’t heard from me and asking if everything was ok. As friends we sent each other photos, pictures, etc. some would be funny cartoons to make us laugh others would be photos of landscapes or flowers.
This is a photo Beth took in Holland and sent to Pam. She loved it.
Beautiful Pam with the infectious smile. Always looking on the bright side of life. Sharing a conversation brightened my day.
Pam wanted to raise awareness of neuroendocrine cancer. And whilst she bravely fought her own battle, she took time out to educate the public. Giving talks, posting on you tube, etc. Ever so proud of you Pam. 💕.
Pam posted a video on YouTube:
A beautiful obituary in The Telegram
I will miss my conversations with Pam. Her friendship was so valuable to me. She will always hold a special place in my heart. When Pam said to me she knew how I was feeling, yes I knew she really did know how i was feeling. There was no bullshit from this lady. I feel priveliged to say she was my friend. Pammy you touched so many people: your loss is being felt world wide tonight.
We exchanged many pictures, photos, etc. This is one that Pam posted on my Facebook page. Rather apt, don’t you think?
3 replies to “Farewell to a courageous brave friend”
I’m so sorry for your loss, Lizbeth! We all need people like Pam in our lives.
I too shall miss Pam! She was a Rock Star in my book. I told her many times… We messaged, we facebook chatted. She was truly a special, wonderful lady. She will be missed my many.
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She sure was a wonderful lady. There will be so many of us that will miss Pam. I just loved our chats 😘